How To LIVE In The Moment

How To LIVE In The Moment

by Rebecca L. Norrington

Before I discuss how to live in the moment, I'd like to say that living in the moment is, in reality, our true nature. Yes, we were all born only experiencing the present moment. Interestingly enough, we continued living in the present moment until we were approximately four or five-years-old. It's really crazy that we've evolved into living in the past and/or future, rather than what was naturally intended.

Have you ever spent time watching a toddler experience life? A toddler hasn't been indoctrinated with the infinite amount of adult thinking - not yet. No, you won't hear a three-year-old repeating any of the following statements.

I'm not worthy.
I don't like the way I look.
I don't have enough money.
I'm too fat.
I'm too old.
I'm too short.
I'm not smart enough.
I'm worried.
I'm afraid.
I'm a failure.

Programmed At Birth
We've all been programmed and conditioned at an early age, to label, blame, judge, compare, label, blame, judge, compare, and repeat and repeat this. We've also been programmed and conditioned to live in the past/future, or even more unsettling, in our own heads. However, when we choose to indulge in this type of behavior, we automatically give up the gift of living in the present moment. Why? Because, when you label a circumstance, event, or person "good" or "bad", you're using a reference from the past. You cannot use a reference from the past and be in the present moment at the same time.

Are Our Thoughts The Enemy?
No. Our thoughts are just that - toughts. It's only when we pay too much attention to our thoughts, and take them SERIOUSLY, that we suffer. Our thoughts about our circumstances (not the circumstance itself) are responsible for all of our suffering. Our runaway, all-consuming thoughts are not evidence of the TRUTH. Our thoughts are evidence of our conditioning.

If our true nature is to live in the present moment, how do we live in that state-of-being enjoyed by children and the animal kingdom? How do we deprogram ourselves and live in the present moment?

Tip No. 1
Have the intention to live in the present moment everyday! Repeat out loud:
"I intend to live in the moment more and more each day."
"I'm grateful to experience living in the present moment throughout my day."
"How would it feel to experience living in the present moment all the time?"
(Ask and It Is Given by Abraham-Hicks)

Tip No. 2
Commit to a daily habit of developing and practicing your awareness. I call this living consciously in an unconscious world. Yes, for the most part, we are unconscious creatures of habit; however, habitual behavior does not produce change or growth. Make a decision to change three habitual behaviors each week. Example: Drive home using a different route each day; or if you pack a lunch, eat out; or comb your hair in a different style; or think of three different (nice) responses you can make to a rude cashier. Have fun, and come up with your own personal changes. Challenge yourself and be creative. The point is to shake it up and practice doing things differently. There is no progress without practice.

Tip No. 3
In 2011, I voluntarily took a 40-day vow of silence. Now, I'm not suggesting that you do the same; however, I am suggesting that you spend sometime throughout your day being quiet. And to be perfectly clear, I mean remaining quiet while surrounded by people. This practice will definitely heighten your awareness, tenfold. The more awareness you have, the more present moments you will experience. Another benefit of this exercise is that when you practice silence, you become a better listener. When you're really listening to someone, you're automatically in the present moment.

What's so Great about Living in the Moment?
Good question. The present moment is the only real reality we have. Anything other than the present moment is, in actuality, non-existent. The past doesn't exist unless we choose to think about it, and the future doesn't exist, period. The present moment is the only place we are able to make choices. The present moment is the foundation of our future moments. The present moment is where we'll find the ultimate peace and contentment. The present moment silences the mind's chatter. In the present moment, time does not exist.

The present moment is where the Universe resides.

About Rebecca L. Norrington
Rebecca L. Norrington is first and foremost a student of the Universe and ITs Laws. She has a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology, along with decades of education and training on topics from Spirituality to Human Behavior. Her professional journey includes several vocations: Radio Personality, Author, Speaker, Spiritual Teacher, and Fitness Instructor. In August 2011, Rebecca premiered RealitySpirituality, an online radio show that shares revolutionary tools and strategies that enable you to maintain and sustain a personal vibration of internal peace and contentment, regardless of your external circumstances. Rebecca loves to focus on everyday circumstances and events and how these circumstances and events align with our personal vibration. Rebecca's RealitySpirituality audience has grown rapidly and currently has thousands of listeners around the world. Rebecca has a clear vision of hosting RealitySpirituality on the OWN network.
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What to Say and Believe When the Shift Hits the Fan

What to Say and Believe When the Shift Hits the Fan

by Joyce Shafer

Keeping spiritual balance can be challenging or feel nearly impossible when life seems to turn completely upside down. Here's something that helps.

It was the third trip to the emergency room in four weeks. But instead of being led to where my mother was, as had happened all of the other times over the past several months--including just two days before this event, I was taken into a private room by a nice woman, then immediately followed in by three E.R. staff, who needed to know if my mother had a Do Not Resuscitate order in place. They told me timing was critical; they didn't believe she could breathe on her own. Mom's systolic blood pressure was 50, her heart rate was low, and she was unresponsive. I was being asked to make a decision about whether my mother was to continue to live or not, and being given only moments to take this in.

While I dealt with the shock of this information and an emergency team desperate for a decision, Source had other plans. I asked to see my mother; and when she finally heard my voice and said my name, her condition began to improve--slowly, but the numbers were going up, not down. And when medical staff felt they could take her for a CAT Scan (she'd hit her head when she'd lost consciousness), and the room cleared, I got on my knees and asked for guidance, which I received within seconds. I still had the rush of adrenaline, but did feel calmer because I'd been given good guidance from Source.

Once stabilized, Mom was admitted and placed into a room. We talked about a lot of things. That was the last time we were able to have that kind of conversation for several days. She was septic, meaning her blood was infected, which meant her brain was affected, as well. All of this created dementia and she also began to hallucinate, and the hallucinations went on for more than 24 hours. Her agitation was so great they had to give her a potent drug every several hours to calm her down so she could rest. Once things began to settle down, she remained confused and easily agitated for several days. To say the experience was severe on all levels is accurate.

It became obvious, first to me then to my mother once she felt better, that there was much to get in order. My days became quite busy with so many things to think about and take care of that almost nothing about my life was the same or what I'd call "typical"; and I was exhausted.

Once circumstances became more manageable, I knew I needed to continue on with tasks that needed immediate attention, but also knew my inspiration was way down, as was my energy. But I had time to think again, rather than just be in action-mode, so drew on something I'd heard in an Abraham-Hicks video. Every morning and as often as I thought about it during the day, I made several statements to Source (and continue this practice). You might consider using these now, but especially if or when the shift hits the fan in your own life:

Thank you for loving me.
Thank you for always being with me.
Thank you for always supporting me.
Thank you for inspiring me.
Thank you for always providing what's needed, and in right timing.
Thank you for guiding and assisting me to be lovingly appropriate and appropriately loving.

The key to feeling even a bit better when times are tough or tense, or both, is to find at least one thought that lifts you up even just a bit so you do't feel utterly alone or adrift--feelings which can happen when you feel shaken to the core by events. I will tell you that when the experience with my mom was really bad, metaphysics or spiritual practice was the last thing on or in my mind. I carry no guilt or self-criticism about that. Now that I have some time to give the experience reflection, I am giving the metaphysical aspect of manifestation and tangled hierarchy (experiences of individuals overlapping) deeper consideration. And I know I'll be looking at this entire experience as it relates to me, and I to it, for quite a while.

I also ask you to pay attention, as well, to the fact that even amid all goings-on initially in the E.R., once the room was empty of all energies but mine and Source, I was able to regroup, so-to-speak, was able to calm myself enough to consciously turn to my connection with Source in my mind and heart.

I also reached out to people, and deeply appreciated their support and prayers. Too often, we try to carry our burdens alone. We are stronger when there are many "hands" and hearts helping us to get up and stay up.

Never cause yourself to be without support from others; reach out, and let them assist you in whatever way is appropriate for them--but don't hesitate to isolate yourself for a while in order to have no "static" interfering with your connection with Source and your self. Don't judge yourself if you temporarily forget pretty much all the metaphysics or spiritual practice you know when dealing with an emergency or utter exhaustion or frustration; neither be surprised if you do remember what you know while experiencing these, and begin to put it into practice.
Find something like the statements I'm using to help you regain your footing, as soon as it feels or becomes appropriate for you to do so. These are good practices, ones you'll appreciate, especially when you need them the most.

About Joyce Shafer
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach dedicated to helping people feel, be, and live their true inner power. She's author of "Don't Want to be Your Guru" and other books/ebooks, and publishes a free weekly online newsletter that offers empowering articles and free downloads. See all that's offered by Joyce and on her site at http://stateofappreciation.weebly.com.

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Do You Feel Shortchanged in Life?

Do You Feel Shortchanged in Life?

by Joyce Shafer

Do you ever feel shortchanged in life? It's an understandable feeling to have, especially in a world that pushes a more-is-mandatory mindset. But, is that mindset helping or holding you back?
"I've spent too long thinking about what was taken and not what was given."

That is a line of dialogue spoken by Prince Caspian in the movie The Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader. When I heard it, it gave me pause. How often we follow the train of thought about what we feel was taken from us, including what we feel was taken from us ahead of time. This may include thoughts like:

I should have been born wealthy.
I should have been born into a different family.
I should have been born in a different geographical location.
I should have been born beautiful/handsome.
I should have been born with better hair.
I should have been given a better education.
I should have been . . . You get the picture, and probably have your own list of "should-have-beens" you could add here.

Notice that nothing is listed above that states "I never should have". Never-should-have statements are more often than not about choices we made, or didn't make. But look at something specific about the ahead-of-time statements: I'm not saying you couldn't add to that list in a way that contradicts what I'm about to say, but the kinds of things listed Can All Be Changed, can't they, especially in this day and age. Changes might take effort, time, and or money, but they can be accomplished or obtained.

Sometimes we're given something and then it seems taken from us through some form of ending. Such times are ones when we might feel and focus on the "taken" aspect first and foremost. This is understandable, and natural, for us. But, we may get stuck here and focus more on what we once had, or never had, or haven't received as yet, than on what we had been given, and on what we've been given that we still have.

Loss is the very thing Prince Caspian is referring to in the movie dialogue line. (Movie Spoiler Alert coming next.) Caspian's focus is on finding his "lost" father, and he is given the opportunity to reunite with his father who had died and gone to live in Aslan's land of eternal life. But to do this would mean he'd have to abandon the life and potential opportunities he'd been given, ones he'd not fully appreciated as yet, because for so long he instead sought to recover what he'd lost.

We were given life and the opportunity to experience it, to mold it and us in ways that feel and are appropriate for us. We were given family and or friends who become our family. We were given more resources than we've used or likely ever will.

We were given innate gifts and the opportunity to nurture and use them; though, we sometimes don't develop our gifts, because we're trying to impose other people's gifts on us, whether others impose this on us or we impose it on ourselves because we don't see the value of our own gifts. When we ignore our gifts or attempt to live as though we have someone else's gifts, we frustrate ourselves. We make life harder for us than it needs to be. This can also cause us to believe something was taken from us, rather than see what we were given. And, we deny the ability of others to benefit from our gifts when we don't use and share them, which impedes fulfillment for us.

One of the greatest things we've been given, in my opinion, is knowledge of and the opportunity to have a relationship with Source. There have certainly been times in history when this wasn't the way it is today. Granted, there are still those who wish to or do limit and control this for others, but fortunately that isn't prevalent. Most of us can find the knowledge we need about Source and choose to nurture that connection.

We literally waste our time, lives, and energy when we focus or dwell on what we feel has been taken from us, or should have been given to us, rather than on what we've been given, can create, and what we receive as we move through life. I leave it to you to contemplate how this fits with Law of Attraction; but take time to think of all you have and have been given, even if you've yet put it into best use. It's a good practice; one you'll appreciate.

About Joyce Shafer
Joyce Shafer is a Life Empowerment Coach dedicated to helping people feel, be, and live their true inner power. She's author of "Don't Want to be Your Guru" and other books/ebooks, and publishes a free weekly online newsletter that offers empowering articles and free downloads. See all that's offered by Joyce and on her site at http://stateofappreciation.weebly.com.

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Feel Good and Make it a Great Day

Feel Good and Make it a Great Day

by Paul Gorney

Don't you just love those days when for some reason you just feel good? Maybe you had some significant accomplishment or just got in a good night's rest. For some reason you have that extra bounce in your step and you just feel on top the world. In fact wouldn't you rather be on top of the world rather than the world be on top of you? Think about that for a minute. Many people go through the day as if the weight of the world was on top of them. Wouldn't it be great if you could feel good anytime you wanted to?

I think it's really important that we feel good or even feel great as often as we can. The way we feel radiates out to the universe and we actually attract to us more of whatever it is we are projecting. You probably noticed that when you're feeling good things seem to go smoother. People are nicer to you and more open. This is because when you're projecting those good vibes, you're bringing others up with you and you are attracting those feel good feelings to you from others and the universe at large.

Now I have noticed there are a number of things that help me feel good, that put me on top of the world, the most important being the words I use. In particular the words I use when I talk to me about me. Specifically the words "I am". We say I am without even thinking about what we are declaring about what or how we are. Some time ago I noticed that many of my "I am" statements were followed by something negative. I also noticed that many times in the day are we are asked "How are you?" A majority of the time we just utter a thoughtless reply of "I'm OK" or "I'm good". Let me ask you do you just want to feel "OK"? Feeling OK won't get it done. Try I am'ing yourself into a great day. How about stating "I am perfect". "I am a winner". My favorite is "I am amazing". Say that to yourself throughout the day. In fact let's change any negative I am's such as "I am tired"." I am sick."" I am bored". With a new ending like "I am blessed". And the next time someone says "how ya doin?" Or "How are you?" Reply with "I am amazing". I think it was the late Zig Ziglar that would respond "I'm doing great and getting better by the minute". How's that for a little pick me up? The thing is, the words "I am" are two of the most powerful words we use. It's a declaration of how we are. So choose good words to feel good when you declare what you are. I like to begin my day every morning with a few powerful and positive "I am" statements. Try this and you will immediately give yourself a leg up on making it a great day. Then remember to just declare how you are throughout the day. Remember we are what we choose to be.

Now that we have the "I am" as the foundation for feeling good. The next thing to consider in making it a great day is to look for the good in people and our life situations. We need to get control of what we say to our self's or to others regarding situations we may be in and what we say about others. I remember back to my Dale Carnegie training and his number one rule for success was don't condemn, complain or criticize. It's easy to fall into the trap of doing all three of these. The fact is, complaining has never made a situation better. Complaining has never helped anybody through a difficult situation. Condemning others is just judging. We may not agree with what people do or how they look or behave. Condemning them doesn't change them to meet our expectations. Lastly, it's easy to be the critic. To see the flaws in someone or something. Again criticizing does not change the person or situation to what we want it to be.

We need to gain awareness when we fall into this trap of the 3 C's. When we are in the trap of the 3 C's we putting negative energy out and it's undermining our efforts to feel good all the time. When I catch myself in the trap of the 3 C's, I try to remind myself of the following:

Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available to them. I also like the line "I'd complain except it won't do any good. Which is totally true! "My mother used to tell me if you don't have anything good to say.... don't say anything at all". Remember we get back what we put out. These negative thoughts and words project negative energy which hinders our efforts to feel good and be on top of the world. Lastly, I believe it was the great industrialist Andrew Carnegie that said something along the lines of; "you develop people the way you mine for gold. You go in looking for the gold, not the dirt". Now I've never been gold mining but I bet there is some serious dirt to get through before you find that gold. But you go in looking for the gold not the dirt. Always be looking for the gold in people.

We've discussed how talk to and about ourselves. We then reviewed what we say about others and life situations. The last element to feeling good and making it a great day is to "stand guard at the door of your mind". Our minds are always under attack. For one, the media sends us information which is nearly all negative. When was the last time you watched the news and left inspired? If there is a nice human interest story, it's wrapped in the middle of stories of doom, gloom and despair. Often time the media appears to be attempting to perpetuate a feeling of lack, limitation and fear. I mean now we have the fiscal cliff! How's that for an attempt at perpetuating fear. The only limitation is in our thinking and the only lack we have out there is in our minds. People are accomplishing great things every day despite the looming fiscal cliff. In addition to the media how about the way we let what others say impact us? In many situations, people are just saying things to us in an effort to manipulate us to do or be what they think we should be. Or to make us fearful. The media and others can only make us feel bad if we let them. Consciously stand guard at the door of your mind and deny entry to any negative talk from others or the media. Remember we are all here to do amazing things.

Many times people will say to me in the morning, "Have a good day". When I think about "have a good day" that's like just taking the day that's handed to me as if I have no impact on the outcome of this day. Does this mean I say to myself, "boy I sure hope I get a good day today." Well, I want to control as much of my destiny as possible so I have shifted to "Make it a great day", because the outcome of the day is up to me and the key to making it a great day is to feel good. Sure things happen both good and bad. But when you're perfect and amazing you handle these situations in a more positive and constructive way. So the next time someone asks "How are you?" Don't just thoughtless reply "good". Tell them how you really are. I am GREAT, Perfect, Blessed, Amazing. Make it as big as you can. Then watch the other person light up with your response. You will be on your way to just feeling good and making it another great day.

About Paul Gorney
Paul Gorney enjoys writing and reading self help books and articles focused on living an inspired life. Paul has a passion around helping people to consciously and intentionally shape their destiny to live the life of their dreams. Paul is a motivational speaker and author and enjoys writing and speaking on a variety of topics focused on helping people to set goals and accomplish amazing things with their lives. He is a certified Life Coach specializing in career coaching and a certified NLP Practioner.

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The Power of a Superior Psychology

The Power of a Superior Psychology

by Paul Gorney

When we speak of having a superior psychology, we are talking about utilizing our energy and will power to take control of what we think and how those thoughts impact the way we approach life. For example it does not take a lot of energy for us to think negative thoughts, just like it doesn't take much energy to generate darkness or for a weed to grow. However it does take energy to produce light. Just look at the energy of the sun. It does take energy for me to plant my tomatoes with the intent and effort around growing tomatoes, despite the continuing incursion of all those weeds. Those weeds are just like the negative thoughts that can entwine our thinking and can fill us with doubt, fear and anger. In the case of my garden, I am applying my energy on the outcome of growing tomatoes and in the process; I get rid of the weeds.

It seems there is an automatic negative downward force which I'll refer to as the gravity of the mind that can pull us down. It's so easy to see what's wrong with things, situations and people. Just a couple of weeks ago I was speaking to a colleague. It didn't take long before we were discussing all the things that are wrong or problematic at work. I noticed that the topic of "what's wrong" flowed so easily and we both had plenty of content to contribute. The fact of the matter is that there is a lot of things right with our work as well. In fact the good far outweighs the bad. Yet, we tend to gravitate to what we think is wrong or broken. We have a tendency to complain and criticize about our situations and the people around us. This negativity undermines our efforts to be happy, which is the one thing I believe we all want.

The power of a superior psychology means that we need to consciously take control and ownership of the kind of thinking we do. We in fact conquer our thinking and take control of how we feel. A superior psychology recognizes that our top priority every day is to just feel good and to be in a state where we look for the opportunity in every problem. We are calm and even cheerful in the face of adversity. We are positive, optimistic and resourceful most of the time.

To achieve this state, we must flood our minds constantly with positive and constructive thoughts. We have to maintain awareness when those negative thoughts show up, so we can overpower their downward negative pull with uplifting life energy that propels us to the outcomes we are looking for in our lives.

Have you ever met someone that says to you, "I just want to feel bad today"? Not likely. I suspect most people want to feel good. In fact I bet everyone wants to feel good all the time. I have met so many people that tell me, "I just want to be happy". Yet, so few people take the time or put in the required energy to pull out the weeds of negative thinking that is choking their personal happiness.

In many cases it seems we want or need something external of us to make us feel good. We have all been bombarded with ads on TV and radio with all these medications to help us feel better. A recent statistic revealed by the CDC indicates that nearly 50% of Americans on at least 1 prescription medication. One in ten of us are on antidepressants. This, despite all those wonderful potential side effects. Anything following the statement "May cause the following ...." Gets pretty scary to me. I mean, they are advertising a drug to help cure depression with a possible side effect that the person taking this drug will have thoughts of killing themselves? Back to my garden analogy, isn't this kind of like blowing up the garden to get rid of the weeds?

I do not want to discount medical treatment in any way. However, I bet in a number of these cases, we are medicating as opposed to taking control of the kind of thoughts we allow or put into our minds.

At the same time many of us blame others for the way we feel. Many people just become victims and have relinquished their personal power to guard the doorway of their minds from these counterproductive feelings and thoughts. I love Napoleon Hill's quote in his book Think and Grow Rich. "If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self". The negative thoughts of the mind can take over your thinking like the undesirable weeds of an untended garden that choke out the life energy and light that enable the desirable fruit we intended to bare.

It's been said throughout the ages, that a person is what they are and where they are because of the thoughts that go into their mind. A person is the thoughts they most frequently think. If this is true, and I believe it is. It's critical that the thoughts we think are positive and uplifting thoughts. Every day we are blasted with what's wrong in the world or at work or in our families. Many conversations center on complaining and finding fault with things, others and ourselves. Who talks to you the most every single day? I strongly suspect the one you hear the most every day is yourself. As a result of this fact, it's pretty important that the things you say to yourself are constructive. In some cases this may be the only source of any positive commentary. Keep in mind; if you can be the architect of your thoughts. Why not build a master piece? To do this we need to take control of our thinking.

To achieve a superior psychology takes a little conscious energy, strategy, repetition and persistence. However, it's not really hard work. Yet it may be considered harder than applying no effort at all to the way we think and go about life. A superior psychology is really about just feeling good. It's having a sense of wellbeing and connectedness. However, as I mentioned this takes a little energy and it's something we need to work into our daily routine. I suspect most people just wake up every morning and go about their day with little or no consideration to deciding how they are going to feel that day. While I'm sure there are many people that just naturally feel great all the time. I bet most people need to make a conscious decision to feel great versus just letting the natural events of the mind run its course.

So how do we consciously take control of our psychology in such a way that we are upbeat and feel good every day? I suggest that we start the minute we wake up in the morning. If you would spend 20 to 30 minutes at the beginning of each day, bombing your mind with positive thoughts you will significantly improve your chances to be in a positive and optimistic state. You will absolutely give yourself what will likely be the only dialog of the day with a steady stream of completely positive, life enhancing, upbeat words and thoughts. Over a period of time this will raise you up to all the wonderful possibilities in your life. It will be like putting on a suit of armor protecting you from all the arrows of negative thinking.

I suggest that our first thoughts being about gratitude. Someone once told me that "all progress stops when you run out of gratitude". Therefore, I suggest that all progress starts with gratitude. So why not start every single day with thoughts of gratitude? We all have so much to be grateful for no matter our life situation. While some folks will think about being grateful for our material possessions or our accomplishments in life, there is so much more to be grateful for. For example our health or our families. We are grateful for our children and our spouses or partners in life.

How about what I believe to be one of the most overlooked things we should be grateful for and that is that we are loved. Yes, no matter who you are or where you are, somebody loves you. You may not want to acknowledge it, but people do love you. How about this? Can you be grateful for something as simple as the breath you are about to take? I think so. Although that breath happens all day without even thinking about it, it's the key to life. We would perish without it. Think about that for a few minutes. Last week I ran into an older guy at the gym that I see regularly. This time he was carrying an oxygen tank with a breathing tube. I've seen this guy for years as he walked on the treadmill. I asked him what was with the tank and the tube. He said he was having a hard time breathing and he needed more oxygen. It's so easy for us to just pass by some of the most basic things we can be grateful for. Things that if we lost, our quality of life would be negatively impacted. Sometimes, I go for a week or two and actually write out a gratitude list every morning. It's always fun to look back and see some the things that come on to the list over a period of time. Interestingly enough, the more you do this, the more you will find things to be grateful for.

The next wave of thoughts is the " I AM" thoughts. Nothing is more powerful than the declaration of "I AM". Funny how the gravity of the mind will often put some kind of negative after the word "I" with no effort at all. Often when you make a mistake like hitting a bad golf shot or not doing well in a presentation. I have noticed that many times when I'm golfing with someone they say, I'm probably going to hit a bad shot". Or, I'm hope I can get the ball close to the hole when they are attempting a putt. Why not say, I'm going to hit a great shot"? Or, " OK, this putts going in the hole". Now, you may not hit an amazing shot, or sink that putt. However, don't you think you significantly improve your chances of doing so by telling yourself that you will?

Apply that positive energy as you start the day and tell yourself "I AM happy". " I AM well". " I AM fit and healthy"." I feel amazing today" . " I will look for the good today". Go on to tell yourself, I will look for the seed of opportunity in every problem I face today. I like to call this "success opportunity". Do this little routine with energy and enthusiasm. I guarantee you will have a lift on your day.

Next think about your dreams and the things you want for your life. I like to sit down in comfortable chair and just relax for a few minutes and see me doing the things I love to do or having the life of my dreams. How often do you sit down comfortably and totally relax every muscle in your body and think about your dream life? I believe most people don't give the life of their dreams much thought. To me thinking about and visualizing living your dream life enables "the art of the possible". The more you can see the life you want and the better you can get clear on all the details, the possibility of achieving this vision becomes more realistic. You start to get clear on how you will live. The things you will do and the stuff that you will have. This is all done through the use of your imagination. Imagination is such a powerful tool. You can go anywhere and do anything in your imagination. You can meet with and talk with anyone living or not living that you want to in your imagination. The challenge is most of us stopped using our imagination when we exited childhood. Take 15-20 minutes every morning to build and live in your dream house. Have your dream career doing what you love and being paid extremely well to do it. You can use this time to imagine how a particular event or meeting will go. I like to imagine playing my best round of golf first thing in the morning before I hit the golf course. However, my favorite is imagining me having, being and doing all the things I would love to be do and have in my life. Somehow by doing this simple exercise, I feel a sense of optimism, authenticity, peace and possibility as I go into my day. I feel like there are great things yet to come in my life.

As I mentioned the power of superior psychology is really about taking control of your thoughts and making a decision to feel good. You will be amazed as to how the world responds to you when you're feeling really good. I notice that after I do my morning ritual, the world just seems more aligned to me. I feel more engaged with people. People are just friendlier toward me. It's like you light up the room with your positive energy. People naturally respond differently and more upbeat toward a more positive you. You get more smiles and you are more approachable.
I believe this is because you give off a more positive vibration to the world when you're feeling good. I have this quote from Dr. Joe Vital on the wall of my office: " It's really important that you feel good. Because feeling good is what goes out as a signal into the universe and starts to attract more of itself to you. So the more you can feel good, the more you will attract the things that help you feel food and that will keep bringing you up higher and higher". It's the law of attraction in action.

They say it takes 21 days to make a habit and it takes energy and will power to stick to a routine. As we discussed at the beginning of the article, it takes energy for the sun to light up the world. It takes energy to achieve the outcomes I want in my life even if it is as simple as growing tomatoes in my garden. Many people don't realize it takes some level of effort to just feel good. However, if you will just start your day 30-45 minutes earlier so you can get your mind into a high performance state, I firmly believe you will start attracting more of things you want for your life and feel a sense of connectedness and all things possible that are out there waiting for you. If you would just commit to doing these things for the 21 days, it will become a habit. It may also turn out to be the best part of the day.

This article, me or anyone else cannot make you feel good. At least not for an extended period of time. It's up to each of us to make a decision to feel good. To be positive and optimistic. To imagine life's possibilities and to look for the good in all situations. To contemplate the wonders of our planet and the universe. To live life from a higher place. Taking control of how we think with the desired outcome of just feeling good every day. To me, this is the psychology of being happy. A superior psychology if I do say so myself.

About Paul Gorney
Paul Gorney enjoys writing and reading self help books and articles focused on living an inspired life. Paul has a passion around helping people to consciously and intentionally shape their destiny to live the life of their dreams. Paul is a motivational speaker and author and enjoys writing and speaking on a variety of topics focused on helping people to set goals and accomplish amazing things with their lives. He is a certified Life Coach specializing in career coaching and a certified NLP Practioner.

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How to Attract More Success

How to Attract More Success

by Laura Burkey

Think and Grow Rich author Napoleon Hill said, "Your big opportunity may be right where you are now."

And comedian Milton Berle stated, "If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door".

And some brilliant 'Unknown Author" uttered, "Every day is an opportunity to make a new happy ending".

"Opportunity doesn't just come to anyone at anytime ya know?"

Right, that one is mine. Was mine. My amazingly optimistic and inspiring quote for far too long (and dull) a period in my life.

Yes, I used to think Opportunity was something that already existed and I would either be lucky to 'get a hold of it' or unlucky to have it 'pass me by'. I also used to think that other (more important and bigger) people had the 'special privilege card' to create any opportunity they wanted while poor little me only got to hope and wait for it to present itself (and choose me). And, if opportunity ever did present itself to me, then I would surely have to jump through some tailor-made-for-failure hoops that would prove my inability and unworthiness.

Boy was life fun then. The angst, the frustration, the unbelievable waste of time ... and opportunity! Geeeeez ... those days of living were an exhausting roller coaster ride for me, for sure.

"There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love; there's only scarcity of resolve to make it happen." Wayne Dyer

If you will absorb the message of this article willingly, fully and completely, happier days are ahead for you - for sure!! Because, what I have come to know, and now live completely, is that opportunity is mine to create. Opportunity is also YOURS to create and have.

Opportunity is for EVERYONE. Rich, poor, young, old, tall, short, east coast, west coast, Ivy league, or community college,......none of that matters!! None of it!! Opportunity is something that YOU and I have the power to make, right here, right now, however we want it. And the people who know this best, are those who choose to believe it and DO IT.
But How? How do you create opportunity? How do you push past the naysayers and critics? How do you take the want, idea, passion or wish and make it into something real? Heck, how do you take the very first single action?

Lots of ways to be sure. For every cool idea (dream) out there living and breathing in all its full glory, there is a unique path, formula and 'way' that brought it to reality. There are books, seminars, workshops, and websites that will tell you how exactly you can create your opportunity. But the one thing that any program or method is going to teach you is that you have to BELIEVE and you have to take ACTION.

Can you do that? Believe and take and action. Because, that, in a nutshell, is pretty much it.

For me, this has become my formula for creating opportunity in my life:

I start with my great IDEA (note: it is always one that serves others), plus

I BELIEVE that I can do this (I decide to commit a high level of conviction to my ability that I can create and achieve this) "I am doing this!", plus

I take ACTION (immediate, itsy-bitsy (at first) and then consistent and supporting actions). Actions that I believe make sense to the ultimate design of my dream.

That is what works for me, pretty much all of the time.

Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more. Tony Robbins

For so many years, I had gotten it backwards. I used to think opportunity was about me 'getting' something. Me winning some big lucky prize. But now, I understand and see it very differently. Opportunity is really about 'giving'. Giving something of value. Giving something I care deeply about. Simply, Giving.

When you switch your aim or focus to wanting to give instead of wanting to receive, I assure you, Opportunity will not leave you alone.

About Laura Burkey
Master Certified Coach with over 20 years experience in the field of Interpersonal Communications and Success Psychology. Laura's primary approach in her coaching work with individuals and couples is removing outdated and ineffective thinking/behaviors -- and re-prgramming or installing cleaner, more efficient THINKING PROGRAMS (and patterns).
Laura is the founder and creator of:
The Coach Master Skill Group (2001)
Outrageously Possible (Group Coaching Series)
Intentional Relating - Couples Communication Coaching

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(Still) a Secret to Greater Success and Outcomes!

(Still) a Secret to Greater Success and Outcomes!

by Laura Burkey

If, over the years you have found that your personal success rate for creating the change you wish to see, or accomplishing the results that you deeply desire are less than "Amazing", I have a secret to share with you that will change that -- forever. (Now there's a bold claim!)

No doubt you have accomplished a lot of great stuff in your life. (Go YOU!) As some say, many roads lead to Rome. And it is true, there are many ways and methods to achieve success.

If you are reading this message right now, you are someone who, very likely, intends to create even more great stuff and great moments in your life (Love that about you!!) and are seeking, as I often do, more efficient ways to do that.

In my never ending quest to understand what not only works, but works every time for more joy, ease and positive outcomes in one's life, I offer you, what I see is still very much unknown to most people. It is a secret that should not be a secret, and more people need to know this.

As it goes with lots of writings on and about success, it will take a discerning mind to really grasp what is being shared here. (I hope you are one of them)

Please enjoy -- and if you have any questions or interest in understanding or living this 'formula' better ... please call or email me. :) I would be delighted to speak with you.

Oh, and, please help me get the secret out! Pass it forward to someone who would love or really needs to know about this. (Thanks!)

You CAN'T just say it
you have to FEEL it
And When you feel it ,
you have to Believe it
And if you don't believe it,
you've got to release the doubt.
And when the doubt is cleared and straight
You have to go back and Say it, (resistance free)
And F E E L it - You have to 'know it' in your body
And (actually) BECOME it - right now, in this here moment
Acting, thinking, seeing and hearing...'as if' it is so,
with full commitment, clarity and causality.
Do this, and your Dream will appear in its physical form.
It really, really, will!

About Laura Burkey
Master Certified Coach with over 20 years experience in the field of Interpersonal Communications and Success Psychology. Laura's primary approach in her coaching work with individuals and couples is removing outdated and ineffective thinking/behaviors -- and re-prgramming or installing cleaner, more efficient THINKING PROGRAMS (and patterns).
Laura is the founder and creator of:
The Coach Master Skill Group (2001)
Outrageously Possible (Group Coaching Series)
Intentional Relating - Couples Communication Coaching

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