All You Have Is Now

by Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D.

Here's what we sound like when we're talking about the future:

I can't wait until we go on vacation

I'll be so relieved when I lose these last 10 pounds

Everything will be perfect when we move into the new house

Things will be so much better when I find a new job

My relationship will be fantastic as soon as my partner changesAnd here's what we sound like when we're talking about the past:

I wish I could just have my last vacation again

I looked so fantastic and slim when I was 18

The house we had when we lived in ___ was so perfect

My first job was just incredible

When I first met my partner our relationship was so wonderfulSo when do we live in the present? All we have is now. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow hasn't come yet, but we insist on filling most of our present moments with wishful thoughts of the future (when things will be better), or nostalgic thoughts of the past (when things were better).

Yet what we could really be concentrating on is making our present moments better. By not doing this, we could equate ourselves to the overweight person who moans about the weight, wishes it would be gone, remembers when it was less, but never does anything in the present moment to improve the situation. If our present moment is not as wonderful as it might be, one thing to do, therefore, is to change some of the things that are not so good in this present moment.

But be careful: that kind of thinking may also take you into future mode, where all you do is spend time on how wonderful things will be when you accomplish this or that.

Therefore, in order to improve the present moment, things must be done in the present. For example, being grateful for anything at all in your present moment, as simple and small as it may be (the butterfly that you see, the blue sky, your skills in a specific area - whatever it is, etc.). This action, being grateful, has the capacity to make your present moment better.

Think of your positive points. Dwell, for a moment, on all you have already accomplished, no matter what it may be, in order to see - now in this present moment - all that you have inside of you, and all that you can use (that is already there, and that has served you well in the past) to make this now moment even better, in order that future now moments will be similarily improved.

Remember...you literally throw your life away, if you do not make some of these changes...life is to be lived now, today, and not tomorrow or yesterday.

Treasure each moment.
are you taking a walk or working out at the gym? Treasure that
are you having your early morning coffee or tea? Treasure that
are you driving to work in heavy traffic? Treasure that by listening to something truly enjoyable on your CD or cassette drive or radio (inspirational speakers are my favorite, but you may prefer music, or learning a language that you would normally not have time for, etc.)
are you taking your children to a soccer game? Treasure that
are your preparing dinner? Treasure that

The trick (if we can call it that) is truly to begin to recognize that each and every moment of our lives offers the opportunity for us to treasure it - if we so decide. That means we must be fully aware of ourselves as well. Choices are hard to make without awareness. And inner freedom is hard to achieve without making choices that are based on a life lived in the now.

About Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D.
Dr. Kortsch is a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, relationship coach, dream worker, author, and professional speaker. She broadcasts a live weekly radio show from southern Spain, also available on the Internet or as archived audio files on her website. She works with clients in person or by phone or SKYPE to move them towards greater personal, professional, and relationship success with her integral and human potential raising approach to life. Sign up for her free cutting edge and inspiring ezine at http://www.advancedpersonaltherapy.com . Also view her blog at http://psychologytransformationfreedompapers.blogspot.com/

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