Life Is Magic; and It's All Done with Mirrors (Show Me the Money!)--Part 1

by Joyce Shafer

Your circumstances look a particular way, just as your mirrored reflection does. If you don;t like the reflection, it isn't the mirror you change.

"If one could take a picture of his objective circumstances and a picture of his subjective mentality, he would find them to be identical, for one is the cause of the other. One is the image and the other is the reflection of that image." -- Ernest Holmes

The day I gave this Holmes passage consideration, I decided to look at a couple of my money beliefs. You've probably been asked by those who address money beliefs to reflect on statements you've heard such as "Money doesn't grow on trees." Okay, those are indeed seeds for weeds that get planted and grow, and you can pull them up and plant new ones such as "Money is as abundant as stars in the heavens." Maybe that does the job and maybe it doesn't go far enough.
When I played with this, I got a surprise--a big Wow! How I approached it was to start by looking at lack vs. have. I wanted to know what seeds were growing weeds deep in my subjective (subconscious) mind. The surprise was that what came up was gender-based.

If you're a male reading this, please continue to follow along and apply your gender-based experiences, if those are what surface. Male or female, if you explore this path, it may or may not have anything to do with gender; so please keep that in mind.

Growing up in the South as the daughter of parents of a generation with particular cultural and religious beliefs, a seed got planted that grew this limiting belief: The only ways a woman can have wealth is if she inherits it, marries it, or her husband does something to create it. She cannot create it for herself. At most, she can support herself, but no more than that. This belief permeated the region where I spent the first decades of my life, right down to my millionaire boss who told me if I wanted more than the $400 a month salary he wanted to pay me, I should get a husband.

I found it interesting that such a belief could lurk in my subconscious despite evidence across history, especially these days, of the opposite. It simply isn't true. What is true is that I'm an individualized expression of Spirit currently experiencing myself as a female; and the only limitations I have are the ones I decide to "play" with.

The next step was to shift this with an activation statement: I choose to activate the belief that I am free to create whatever I desire, which is my birthright from Spirit.

This led to another realization that was followed by--

I choose to activate the release of any negative, limiting beliefs or feelings that are gender-based about creating my life, work, and finances of choice. Any story I've ever heard, read, observed consciously or subconsciously, or experienced is just that--a story, and has no foundation in Truth. It is my right, and responsibility, to decide, in each moment, what is appropriate for me and what is aligned with and supportive of my ideal vision of my life and experience of it.

What came up after this was the realization that any resentments attached to this belief that I still held had to be released. Such resentments included money conflicts within relationships (based on gender-based beliefs); being taken advantage of in or out of the workplace (no one can take advantage of us unless we allow it); disparity of pay-for-service based on gender; and so on. I saw how these were like weights on my wings that held me back.

Let me be clear about what I just demonstrated here. I realized a limiting belief had attachments to it in the form of resentments (picture a tree trunk with branches). I might activate a new statement about the belief, but as long as past resentments were allowed to linger, I wouldn't make as much progress as I'd like.

Continuing to use the mirror-and-reflection concept, releasing the beliefs and resentments also creates the opportunity for men and women to "reflect" differently. Some of the gender-based stories and jokes people repeat serve to lock members of both genders into behaviors that maybe they'd like to stop demonstrating. Maybe not everyone, as we're all on individual paths; but I'm willing to allow that a percentage would like to experience improved interactions.

Money is a major issue most people have charged emotions about; but you can use this method for anything and everything you'd like to look at and shift about your life. What do you lock into place as your experience because that's what you expect? You can't guarantee that someone else will change if you free them from your limiting beliefs and resentments, but you can create the space for it to have a chance to happen. At the very least, you remove some of the weights tied to your wings. These weights are called negative expectations based on past experiences.
Mirror, mirror on the wall . . .

About Joyce Shafer
Joyce Shafer, LEC (jls1422@yahoo.com) is an author and creator of the Reinvent Yourself: Refuse to Settle for Less in Life and Business coaching program. Stop trying to figure out or master Law of Attraction and become a Deliberate Attractor: http://www.freewebs.com/coach4lifebalance. Want the program materials, but not the coaching? Reinvent Yourself eCourse available at www.lulu.com.

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